Leadership is a lived experience.

It's what we do together—in the moments that matter.

Multiple colorful arrows converge and turn into a single blue arrow pointing to the right.

“Leadership is the process of getting other people to move along together with you, and each other, with competence and full commitment to achieve a goal.”

— Elliott Jaques & Stephen D. Clement

In plain language,

leading is about influencing people.

Influence Isn’t NeW

These days, influence has been repackaged as something to be curated, monetized, and measured by the number of followers you can amass.
But long before influence became a marketing term, it described something essential to human life: the way people affect one another through attention, trust, and shared purpose.

That’s a definition worth reclaiming — it’s quieter, steadier, and far more consequential — something that builds rather than brands.

And once you see influence this way, the real question becomes:

How can you become more effective in how you influence —

more deliberate, more human, more real?

Meet the people whose work lives in that question

“Leadership Actually is an invitation to cast aside most of what have been taught about leadership to make room for a new concept - the craft of leadership - and explore its possibilities for transforming you, those you lead, and the world around you”

R. Tom Lenz, Emeritus Professor of Management, Kelly School of Business, Indiana University
“It's a good idea to have two copies of Leadership Actually: one for the office to share with colleagues and one for home to share with family and friends."

E.R. Dunn, President, Dunn Group Ltd.
"Rooted in deep psychological principles, military and business strategy as well as ancient wisdom, it invites us to reimagine leadership in a holistic, pragmatic and far more human way in every area of our lives."

Rob Meekins, Co-Founder and Former CEO, Med School Tutors
“ This book is a hands-on guide for leaders who know they can get the best out of their teams (and themselves) but have been struggling with how."

Sarah Redgrave, Vice President, Center Operations, KinderCare
“Leadership Actually eloquently uses the narrative of a Vietnam Veteran to remind us that true leadership skills are not something that can be taught or even refined through training, but through an openness to what life and those we encounter bring to us. It reminds us that our leadership is not something we have earned by being better than, but an honor we have gained by being open to; a burden we carry by caring for; a responsibility we assume for hoping for a brighter tomorrow.”

Michelle Craven, Ph.D, School Counselortion

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Leadership is a lived experience.

It's what we do together—in the moments that matter.

“Leadership is the process of getting other people to move along together with you, and each other, with competence and full commitment to achieve a goal.”

— Elliott Jaques & Stephen D. Clement

Influence Isn’t NeW

“Leadership Actually is an invitation to cast aside most of what have been taught about leadership to make room for a new concept - the craft of leadership - and explore its possibilities for transforming you, those you lead, and the world around you”

“It's a good idea to have two copies of Leadership Actually: one for the office to share with colleagues and one for home to share with family and friends."

"Rooted in deep psychological principles, military and business strategy as well as ancient wisdom, it invites us to reimagine leadership in a holistic, pragmatic and far more human way in every area of our lives."

“ This book is a hands-on guide for leaders who know they can get the best out of their teams (and themselves) but have been struggling with how."

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